Lately I’ve been hearing a lot of people saying they have trust issues.
Well, if you think about it, trusting someone doesn’t just come like that. Understandably, it is not easy at all. Trust is something you earn and it takes time and dedication.
Trust goes hand in hand with honesty. Saying the truth, no matter how much it can hurt the other person, is the first step. Being honest with yourself first and then with everyone around you is something we need to work on, it does not happen over night.
What I hate the most is hearing:
“No one can be trusted”
“I don’t trust girls/guys anymore”
What happened with giving the benefit of the doubt? Do we actually believe that everyone is the same, everyone just wants to hurt us on purpose? Are we all just a pack of douchebags at the end of the day?
We all have our issues, small, big, doesn’t really matter. We all have a baggage, we’ve all been through hell at some point in our lives. But, giving up on your feelings is no solution. It just turns us into robots. And, robots don’t understand the notion of happiness, they are empty.
One question: who wants to live like that?
I don’t know about you but, I believe everyone deserves a chance, sometimes even a second chance. We are humans after all. Everyone screws up sometimes. We all do things that we regret later. But, we need to accept our mistakes and, most importantly, learn from them. We need to start working on being a better man/women. Not for me, him or her but, for you.
The only thing we can do is forget and forgive. First of all, it will make us feel better. And maybe, others will see that as an invitation to do the same.
Millions of people have decided not to be sensitive. They have grown thick skins around themselves just to avoid being hurt by anybody. But it is at great cost. Nobody can hurt them, but nobody can make them happy either.
* I’ve been trying hard to find the perfect song for this, so here you go: