Many thanks! Mulțumesc!

* My favorite post is ‘Au revoir’

https://girlisimperfect.wordpress.com/2015/05/24/au-revoir/

Mulțumesc!

Today I had the great joy of seeing my blog’s stats. I have reached the 1k views step.

This can only make me happy since this blog means so much for me.

Thank you!

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The perils of jealousy

‘I’m not the jealous type’, that’s one of the biggest lie I constantly hear.

Every one of us has been jealous at least once. What you need to know about jealousy is that it’s a natural feeling. When you care about someone and you see danger on the horizon, you feel threatened and/or insecure. Sometimes, jealousy takes over you in the most harmless situations. That’s when you know the problem is not your lover, but yourself. That’s when you know your jealousy comes from your deepest fears, being cheated on before or even have cheated yourself. Even though it is inevitably part of love, in excess, jealousy destroys even the purest love stories. It takes time and patience to build trust, and a few seconds to lose it.

Unnecessary jealousy scenarios:

  • Bartender smiles at her when she orders. He asks whether she knows him. Of course she doesn’t; it’s her first time she’s ever walked in that pub. The bartender is only being friendly because he wants to make some extra money 😉
  • Random guy approaches her on the dance floor. He starts dancing with her. ‘Babe’ sees what’s happening from the bar and walks away in the other direction. Well, all that she needs is a dance partner, and if you’re making her dance …
  • My favorite: Someone starts chatting her up and ‘babe’ looks right, looks left and starts talking with the first good looking (or not) girl.

The solution: go straight up to your girl and give her a kiss; no harm done, everyone is happy and she will love you even more for getting her out of that awkward situation. I bet most girls will agree with me on this one.

Necessary jealousy scenarios:

  • Your ‘boozy’ girlfriend gets really close to a random guy or, even worse, to one of your mates. This is a ‘red flag’.
  • She’s always texting, has a password on her phone or walks out of the room when someone is calling her. Although this doesn’t necessarily means she’s cheating on you, sometimes you might want to reassess your relationship.
  • She spends less time with you, she’s always busy and when you meet she’s just not there in the moment, with you. Again, there are 50/50 chances she’s just going through something and needs some personal space.

The solution: pretty much the same as the previous one; get her out of her bubble, sincerely talk with her and most importantly listen; it can help your relationship so much … She might feel lonely, unappreciated and/or not getting the attention she deserves from you.

* Everything I’ve wrote is from personal experience, from research articles I’ve read and from what my friends have shared with me. It doesn’t necessarily means it’s your believe as well. I’ve written this because there might be people who need to hear this to fight for their loved one. I know this since I constantly need to remind myself the same thing …

Fear

She doesn’t fall in love easily, but when she does, it’s so intense that she cannot handle it. Sometimes it takes her a while to realize and, sometimes, she can feel it from the start. So, when it happens, she runs, she hides, she’s stronger and weaker in the same time. She glows on the outside and slowly ‘dies’ on the inside. Fear gets in the way of something that could change her life in better.

I guess it’s because she’s afraid of change, of not being in control and of losing herself. She hates to lose herself; especially to someone she has just met. She’s that kind of person who believes every single one of us has light and darkness inside ourselves. Usually she’s mostly attracted to the darkness, to the unspoken, to the misunderstood, to the forbidden. She can’t really avoid it because those are her main traits and that’s the only world she knows.

Au revoir

Do you ever feel like
Joy is what you don’t deserve,
That no one can take
Whatever pain you reserve.

Have you thought
No one can ever fix,
No one can have a shot,
If you won’t kiss.

‘Gorgeous’ isn’t what I wanna hear
Sex is not defining us,
Your warm whispers in my ear
It’s what makes me fuss.

I’ve relived the first white night
When you made me scream in fright
Your soft lips were pressing my skin
Right before you dived in.

Rocking my red nightwear,
I’m puffing on a cigar,
Starring at your scar,
I just need an ‘au revoir’.

Flat 15 (2)

Sy is the first person I’ve met when I moved in flat 15 in January. A few weeks later, he slowly became more than a uni flatmate, he became a very good friend. He knows this, but my first impression of him wasn’t really good. He was polite and helped me with my luggage but, he would spend days in his room playing video games (COD, Batman, etc.).

For me, that was a bit annoying because I started all over again in a new flat and I wanted to make friends. My plan? Join him in ‘The Gaming Room’. Seriously, I have learned how to kill zombies and how to fly. I had to quit soon since it was really addictive and I had a dissertation to write at the time.

One thing you need to know about Sy: he loves to share his knowledge about everything and everyone; in this situation he loved teaching me, and later my good friend, how to play video games. Another thing Sy shared with me is Eminem’s life. I would have never guessed I will become such a big Eminem fan.

I appreciate him because he is one of the people who encourages me to keep this blog alive and never give up on my dreams, as stupid as they may sound to other people. Even more, he always lets me know when I am being insensible towards others and especially towards the people I love. I thank him because that has helped me a lot in assessing my behavior and in making my close friends feel valued. No one is perfect, I know I am not perfect but he is definitely helping me to become a better person.

The funniest part about our friendship is the fact that we always have something to talk about and we often have small debates on different topics. Like everyone else in this crazy flat, we are arrogant, stubborn and opinionated. When we get along with each other is so much fun and joy. But when we don’t, sh*t is going down. Sometimes things can get ‘aggressive’, but they are honest mistakes; like the time when he elbowed me in the lip and I had to go to a festival and wear red lipstick to cover it.

Sy is really kind and a hopeless romantic. I can say he inspires me to write most things on my blog. Because of him, now I see men in a different light, discover their soft, feminine parts and I can take into account all perspective of a situation.

I am very lucky to have you as my friend, Sy.

* Next story is going to be about the one flatmate I consider to be the ‘joker’ of Flat 15.

The art of texting

11025820_385368581669201_1860416780711598415_nThe most annoying things you definitely experienced when texting:

  • The 3 days rule
    This is just full of crap. I mean if you liked her why wait? Why? So she can forget about you and accept a dinner invitation from another guy?
    A true gentlemen will always text the same day saying whether he wants to see you again or not, and in a polite manner.
  • Waiting a few minutes, hours before replying
    This one is just bad manners. If you are doing it on purpose, I just pity you. If you are actually busy, a small text saying ‘can’t talk right now. Call you as soon as I can’ will be much appreciated. Sometimes, I just ask ‘is this boring you?’ and immediately get a reply. Most of the times the reply is ‘I’m busy right now’.
  • Seen at blah blah (iMessage, WhatsApp)
    Needs no introduction.

Flat 15 (1)

The other day my flatmate asked me what was my first impression of him. You see, I moved in flat 15 in January and didn’t know anyone except Stef, who I met a few months earlier. Funny story. He overheard me talking in Romanian with a friend in the cafeteria, after seeing us losing a Romanian note on the floor. He comes straight to us and cracks up a joke I can’t even remember today. That day I found Stef to have an outgoing personality, he was really friendly. Maybe he was just trying to make friends on campus or he really liked us, I don’t know.

Moving in his flat was a completely different story. I started to know the real Stef, the loud Stef. To be honest, you are loud only when you Skype, which is every freaking day and night … However, Stef is one of the smartest people a know. He can talk for hours about many different topics, he can give useful advice when someone is being stupid and my favorite, he can read people. He admits he has read a few books and watched movies about gestures and body language but, still, he can immediately tell when someone is lying. His ‘gift’ helped me a lot to fit in my new home.

Another thing, Stef has this weird habit of entering the living room and finding an excuse to leave if he doesn’t like what we are up to. Let’s say, we are playing cards. He would walk in, ask us what we are doing and say ‘Alright, I’m going to clean my room’. Typical Stef. Also, Stef is a great chef. His specialty at any time of the day is PIZZA.

Happy Birthday, buddy!